There are two books in my head as I start this post. One is The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest, and the other is Forty Days On Being A Seven by Gideon Yee Shun Tsang, with Suzanne Stabile as series editor.
(I feel like I’m Tyra on America’s Next Top Model, with “two girls stand before me, but I only have one photo in my hand” Yes, I know there is a new documentary out, and no, I haven’t watched it. I’ve only seen a snippet online.)
Both books call for attention and reflection. Both I want to do, and at the same time, I’m avoiding.
Let’s still do it, yeah?
Goals and the laws of life.
Brianna writes about principles in her book — there are rules of the universe that will always apply — giving an example of how, if you ate well, your health would get better.
I took a moment to think about it, reading the book on the train, about what laws of life I needed to use in my life.
To be healther, the laws are to sleep well (and enough), to eat good foods (not just tasty food) and to move my body in enough amounts.
To be richer, the laws are to complete the work that I have been and will be paid to do, and to keep creating and completing projects that pay me. The laws are to save and invest my money, to spend wisely (well under budget) and to create a healthier relationship with money and wealth.
To be more beautiful, the laws are to understand colour, clothes, lines, materials, aesthetics (in the beauty sense and the lookbook sense).
To have an abundant, rich life, the laws are to surround myself with good friends and people, to read widely, well and often, to reflect on my thoughts, actions and feelings to grow, to have experiences of warmth and welcoming…
To have a place I love to call home, the laws are to have money (then see above), to define the life and lifestyle that is in alignment with my purpose, to explore places and intentionally choose to put down roots.
If you find this to be boring and obvious, good for you. To me, this is a revelation. I know people say that you should make plans with your goals and dreams, but it always seemed so… out of touch. To succeed as a realtor, for example, you need to define (arbitrarily) a number as your goal, then break down how many real estate transactions you need in a year, which then connects to the number of cases you need, and the number of people you need to meet in a day… I found all this strange and disconnected, even if I can follow the logic, because… I guess because I don’t want to be a realtor. Even in the bootcamps where we had to make a vision board, pasting pictures of the people we love… I didn’t make the connection.
Telling me that there are laws of life, and they apply to everyone, and all you have to do is to work with them? Now that I understand. That I see as connected to the universe. I see the thread held snug between what I want to what I can get/be.
I think I saw other rules as made up by people, and so I wouldn’t trust them. There are a hundred ways to make it as a realtor (having interviewed some of the most successful in the business, this is actually true. no two were alike in their business) and so one person’s rules are not rules I could/would follow.
With laws of life, or principles, these I get. Everyone is bound by them, and common sense makes sense.
Which means I can turn goals into plans for the first time.
to be healthier
to be richer
to be more beautiful
to have an abundant/richer life
to have a place I love to call home
Oh, then what do I do with the wish I am responsible for, this year, from the 13 Magical Nights? “I let go of the things that are not for me, does not serve me, are not mine.” What laws of the universe fit here? To judge what I’ve never been excited or motivated about, or even want in my future, and to let them go, actively.
It is 1:21 am, and I am starting to feel tired. Jarrod’s on a plane to the US, and I want to know he’s safe. Just a bit more? No, I should sleep.
Tomorrow or another day, I’ll answer Gideon’s Day 17 on the Seven book. Why do we Sevens need extreme experiences to feel alive? (em, I don’t. do i?) What pain are we avoiding to get the drug-like adrenaline hit? (all of it. but that’s just the cheeky-smart-butt answer, even if it may be true.)
Enough, sleep.
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Image of colourful bundles of wool by Rudy and Peter Skitterians from Pixabay.
